Back in the day, codependency was often associated with alcohol and substance abuse. Today, advancements in modern medicine have broadened its scope. It can now be correlated with unbalanced parent-child relationships.
Parents, in general, strive to have a healthy relationship with their children. However, some circumstances can make it challenging. One reason for this is codependency. This behavior can negatively affect people's lives, especially if left undetected. The once healthy relationship between parent and child can end up in a mess.
That's why we've compiled the signs of codependency in this article. We aim to help you identify the early signs of having codependent behavior. We'll also highlight the potential repercussions of being a codependent parent and offer tips on how to heal your relationship with your child.
There is a fine line between good parenting and being codependent. The latter is a type of behavior that can potentially lead to serious consequences, especially if it continues throughout childhood into adulthood. Being a codependent parent means that you have an unhealthy attachment to your child.
While it is natural for parents to put their children's needs above their own from time to time, codependency extends beyond that level and is characterized by a parent's refusal or inability to separate from their child.
You are the type that often overlooks the restrictive and dysfunctional aspects of your close relationship with your child. The result is a relationship with blurred boundaries and toxic parenting habits. To better understand what it means to be one, let's look at the top 5 signs of codependency.
A big part of it is being in control too much, which can hinder your child's development to maturity. One prime example of this is taking away your child's independence. As a codependent parent, you find ways to discourage their independence even if they are at the right age. This results in your child feeling caged, which then causes resentment.
Control comes with many definitions. Here are other indications that you are too controlling.
A codependent parent is obsessed with their children's happiness and believes they are responsible for it. They may even feel that their children's feelings and needs are more important than theirs. In a sense, they put their children first in everything, including their marriage or other relationships and careers.
Parents with codependency enforce psychological strategies on their children. Here are some examples
Parental conflicts are normal. However, if you don't stop your child from getting involved in adult affairs, you could endanger their mental health. If you force your child to agree with you in an argument with your partner, it can be a sign that you are codependent. You might end up manipulating your child to select in your favor.
A parent with codependent behavior has a difficult time enforcing discipline. They are often enablers because they make excuses for the other person's bad behavior and lack of responsibility. These parents would rather face disrespect than upset their children. For example, your child may have missed curfew multiple times, but rather than grounding her or discussing her behavior with her so she can learn from her mistakes, you provide an excuse for why she was late or even lie about what time it was. This enables your child to continue making bad choices.
As a parent, you're supposed to love your children unconditionally. That includes giving them everything they need and protecting them from harm and danger. However, being overly protective doesn't do anyone any good. Family codependency is mentally exhausting. Children raised by codependent parents can be codependent themselves. They grow to have low self-esteem, diffused identity, and difficulty in saying 'no.' Moreover, they often have a misplaced sense of guilt in whatever they do and try to please people all the time. It also interrupts their mental growth towards independence. Some may even have trouble making decisions because they haven't learned to deal with life's problems independently.
To manage codependency, you must learn to admit it first. Try to look deep into yourself and acknowledge that it exists. Accepting it will open doors to re-establish relationships with your family. Take these steps to begin dealing with codependency:
Our health professionals provide exceptional service to parents with codependency behavior. We ensure quality sessions to manage codependency and restore a healthy parent-child relationship. Whether you prefer group therapy or one-on-one, we're ready to accommodate your needs. ACFMW aims to provide you with the best methods to kick codependency out of your life. Visit our website to learn more, or give us a call today.
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