Relationships evolve. Some good relationships can turn toxic, and vice versa. There's also no assurance if a toxic relationship can improve overtime. However, unhealthy relationships can be damaging mentally, emotionally, and even physically. Sometimes people can be manipulative, play victim, and instill guilt. No relationship is perfect, but you should be aware of the red flags of a toxic relationship and remain observant. 

10 Undeniable Signs You Are in a Toxic Relationship

     1.Too Much Jealousy

Many people experience jealousy at times. The problem is it is common among people in a toxic relationship. Does your partner constantly monitor your whereabouts and what you're doing? Even if you don't display signs of cheating, does your partner always suspect you of cheating? If he's like that, then your partner has a jealousy problem. Such behavior is detrimental to your relationship.

     2. Manipulation

Manipulation is a problem that can arise in any relationship. A manipulator attacks the mental and emotional sides of their target to get what they want. When in doubt as to whether you are being manipulated, look for these common traits: 

• It is their goal to make you dependent on them. They convince you to give up things that are important to you.
• Use your weaknesses and take advantage of them. 
• They will use tricks such as guilt, denial, blame, and feigning ignorance so that you'll give in to their demands.
• They exploit your insecurities.

Manipulation by a loved one is difficult to handle. It might endanger your emotional and psychological health. Find a safe way to get out of this situation.

     3. Lack of Appreciation

Appreciation contributes to a healthy relationship. We should feel, express, and reciprocate it. However, if your partner doesn't show any appreciation in anything you do, that’s a warning sign. Try not to torture yourself by making someone love you, but understand that communication is the key. 

     4. Assess the Person's Sense of Responsibility. 

Toxic people are incapable of taking responsibility for anything, including their actions. When you confront them, they become defensive and will try to justify their behavior. They might refuse to apologize when they are obviously wrong. As early as possible, sort things out with your partner regarding their behaviors. 

     5. Bad Communication

Successful relationships require good communication. However, in your relationship, if most of your dialogue consists of sarcasm, criticism, and hostility, you might consider that a warning sign that your relationship has become toxic.

     6. Humiliation

If your partner humiliates you in front of your family or friends, it's a sign of relationship dysfunction. A humiliation tactic intends to put you down but usually happens around other people. It is a big red flag if you feel like you are being humiliated for your partner's benefit. 

     7. There Is No Trust

Trust builds healthy personal and professional relationships. When you trust someone, you can depend on them and are comfortable confiding in them. If there's no trust, your relationship will not grow. Trust is vital for the future and success of a relationship.

     8. Lack of Effort

If you're the only one who always plans events or asks how your partner is feeling feeling without reciprocation, that’s not a good sign. Both partners must give time and effort. Your relationship may be toxic if it exhibits three or more of the following traits:

• You feel the need to become someone else for your partner's sake.
• One of you needs to justify your actions.
• Disagree with the other person and feel worried about it.
• You are under pressure to give up your favorite activities.

     9. Lying Becomes a Habit

Some people cannot stop lying. A toxic relationship like this would lead to feelings of insecurity and frustration. You may even become paranoid about the relationship as a whole.

     10. An Instance of Physical Abuse

If your partner slaps or hits you physically, then that's physical abuse. Even when it is only once, it is never acceptable or justifiable. Always seek help if abuse is involved. 

Look Out for These Types of A Toxic Relationship

The liar partner - What makes you think that someone can't lie to you if they can lie to their family and friends? Quit it. Don't trust a liar.

The perfectionist partner - You'll never be good enough in everything that you do. People who constantly make you change for their needs aren't worth your time. 

The cheater partner - There's a saying, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." Unfortunately, some people can't commit to one relationship. They're the only ones who can alter that, and you have no control over it.

The abusive partner - If your partner strikes you or threatens to abuse you, don't let them. Staying in such a toxic relationship will give your partner a sense of dominance.

The competitive lover - Yes, they love you and care about you. However, they will never let you beat them at anything, no matter if it's a game or money. Their greatest joy is seeing you fall so they can help you back up again. 

Take Action Before It's Too Late

A toxic relationship can cost you time and energy, so it is better to spend it on something much more valuable. If any of these signs occur in your relationship, it is better to leave. There may be risks, but it's crucial to save yourself now.

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